Saurian's Gyan: "I"

Before we begin, I'd just like to clarify a few things: For any
relationship "me", "you", "I" are important, because, well... it's your relationship. When I write further, my reference to I, me, we, us, etc., essentially means you (and occasionally me, the writer), but you can read it from a third-person's perspective and it would work well for entertainment purposes either which ways. There is no argument that you are of course important in any relationship. And with this note I start writing "I", my first couple of series on "stuff" that I want to call Saurian’s Gyan.

For any of my relationships in life, as I am important, it is imperative that I know who I am and what my inert characteristics are. It is important that I know what I like in my life and how I react in circumstances -- how I feel and how I react. As on my quest in life with the hundreds of people I have relationships with -- whether it is with my mom or my dad; my sibling or my girlfriend; my colleague or my fiancé; my mentor or my best friend who I have a crush on; my ex or their mother-in -laws; my friends or my God -- they all generate some emotion in me. Whether I understand or overlook them, they all not only determine how I feel and react, but also how I deal with other relationships. In this quest of building and maintaining these relationships of multi-emotions we must be clear as to who we are and what we want.

Most problems in relationships are our own doing (well we want to blame others too because it’s simpler). But on a serious note, if you fix yourself, your relation heals or has more chances of survival. But do you want it to survive or "am I too insecure to be alone as this world is a lonely place" is again a dilemma. There is no potion for a good relationship, there is no reason for questioning why your best-friend is lucky to have a perfect relationship (as it may appear) and not you, there is no need to blame your rotten unlucky life, there is no need for feeling miserable and lonely without at least giving yourself the chance and time to fix and understand what happened.

Do not base your life on the faults of others or on luck, it's not going to help, it's going to do nothing but let another day pass by in positive tears or negative belief, and you will wake up the next morning ready for challenge and looking for a better tomorrow, I pity you. I pity those who, when sad, remember all the sad times in their life and think that they have always been upset and hence always be, then spend their days in misery. I pity those very same sad people who when are happy, seem like they have never been sad and remember only the happy moments in their life and are all positive that their future is content too. I pity those who think they have understood the dynamic of all relationships and off course their own, when they haven’t yet understood their own head and heart. I pity them because they don’t like getting hurt, but if they don’t get hurt on a regular basis, feel something is missing in life. I pity these smart, social, winners, playboys, mba’s, rich, intelligent, doctors, lawyers, artists, beautiful ignorant people. Their life doesn’t belong to them anymore. The more often you feel you are in control of your life, the more quickly your make up will run out and you will be forced to see who you really are, unless off course you still choose to be blind. I pity the one who is loved by all but cries alone at night, because he/she couldn’t love him/herself. We all have tried it all, we all have tried various ways of changing ourselves in order to be loved, we all have been accepted with and without are masks, we all have been rejected and we change on the basis of others and mostly not for ourselves.

If we just accept who we are without judging ourselves by the eyes of the world, if we just not justify our actions even to ourselves, but follow our gut and conscience, we would never complicate our lives as much as we do. "Charity beings from home", so be good to yourself, be true to yourself, know yourself, fear yourself, bear yourself, control yourself, help yourself, as you will always have to live with yourself. In order to fix relationships, to make this world a better place, we do injustice to ourselves, to our own nature; we forget our true self and the roots of our emotion. So the next time you regret something or are upset, don’t think how you have been wronged, how you did something wrong... just realise where you have done an injustice to yourself, where you have gone against your gut and conscience, where you did not love yourself, then you won't make the mistake again, or at least realise and understand ourselves and our emotions slightly better. The better you are to yourself, the better your relationships will be, and the better you will be able to understand your partner or others in society.

Coming up : Saurian’s Gyan : 2. "You"

Note: Saurian is a friend, (half philosopher/half clown), who requested I publish some of his thoughts on "stuff" anonymously

Carrie Bradshaw's breakup rules

" I created my very own first breakup rule: 

Breakup rule No 1:  Destroy all pictures where he looks sexy and you look happy.
Breakup rule No. 2: Until emotionally stabilized, enter no stores.
Breakup rule No. 3: Never stop thinking about him, even for a moment. because that's the moment he'll appear. 

And finally,the most important breakup rule: No matter who broke your heart or how long it takes to heal, you'll never get through it without your friends.”

-Carrie Bradshaw

I am not quite sure, that I believe in rule 2. Worth a thought, I suppose. My 3 rules include a lot of shopping infact. 

PS- Ips found this